Trust, as a child loves a Grandmother

In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love, you want the other person.
–Margaret Anderson

The expression of real love is so easy between grandparents and children – and between good friends it passes effortlessly. But why is it so hard to share real love with a spouse or lover? Why, instead, do we want to possess them? And from them, we dream of selfless devotion. Yet neither possession nor devotion guarantees the security we long for.

Real love is not selfish; it frees both the giver and the receiver. Knowing we’re loved sustains our hearts and diminishes our difficulties. It doesn’t bind us, yet paradoxically it bonds our hearts. These encouragements to grow, to change, to dare to depart if it’s for our own good, are expressions of real love. Real love is never ownership, only stewardship of this moment’s experiences.

Let’s be gentle with one another, and love fully with trust, as a child loves a grandmother.

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Always There.. My Land.. Caledonia.. Celtic Thunder

Regardless of how I’m feeling, Emmet sounds passionate about the words in this song.

Always There

When I’m less than I should be
And I just can’t face the day
When darkness falls around me
And I just can’t find my wayWhen my eyes don’t clearly see
And I stumble through it all
You, I lean upon, you keep me strong
And you raise me when I fall

You are there when I most need you
You are there so constantly
You come shining through, you always do
You are always there for me

When life brings me to my knees
When my back’s against the wall
You are standing there right with me
Just to keep me standing tall

Though a burden, I may be
You don’t weary, you don’t rest
You are reaching out to carry me
And I know I’m heaven blessed

You are there when I most need you
You are there so constantly
You come shining through, you always do
You are always there for me

You are there when I most need you
You are there so constantly
You come shining through, you always do
You are always there for me

There when I most need you
There so constantly
You come shining through, you always do
You are always there for me

You come shining through, you always do
You are always there for me

My Land is breathtaking no matter where I am when I hear the men singing their solos.

My Land

How green are your valleys, how blue your great skies,
Your mountains stand tall in their glory:
Your rivers run free – the bright stars are your eyes,
Your beauty is endless before me.Oh, you are the song ever singing in me,
And you are the heart ever true:
For, you are my land and you always will be,
The voice ever calling me… home to you.

When times we are far from your forests and streams,
When sailing from your shining waters:
We carry your hopes – your spirit, your dreams-
In the hearts of your sons and your daughters.

CHORUS

When to your green valleys some day I return,
When you lay your mantle around me:
At rest I will be where the heart will not yearn,
With my land to ever…surround me.

CHORUS

The voice ever calling me…home to you.

And then Caledonia tugs at my heart.

“Caledonia”

I don’t know if you can see, the changes that have come over me
In these last few days, I’ve been afraid, that I might drift away
I’ve been tellin’ old stories, singing songs
That made me think, about where I’ve come from
And that’s the reason why I seem so far away today.Let me tell you that I love you
And I think about you all the time
Caledonia you’re calling me, now I’m goin’ home
But if I should become a stranger
Know that it would make me more than sad
Caledonia’s been everything I’ve ever had.I have moved, and I’ve kept on movin’
Proved the points that I needed provin’
I Lost the friends that I needed losin’
Found others on the way
I’ve kissed the girls and left them crying
Stolen dreams, yes there’s no denying
I’ve traveled hard sometimes with conscience flyin’
Somewhere in the wind

Let me tell you that I love you
And I think about you all the time
Caledonia you’re calling me, now I’m goin’ home
But if I should become a stranger
Know that it would make me more than sad
Caledonia’s been everything I’ve ever had.

Let me tell you that I love you
And I think about you all the time
Caledonia you’re calling me, now I’m goin’ home
But if I should become a stranger
Know that it would make me more than sad
Caledonia’s been everything I’ve ever had.

All credit is due to Celtic Thunder for the songs, the presentation and production of super concerts and the parents of these lads who must have encouraged them to follow their dreams of singing. I’m unable to find a copyright icon for Celtic Thunder, simply taken as here.

LISTS of what to do; what not to do; how to live; how not to live. They’re everywhere.

 

We’ve all stuffed up somewhere in our lives, but the best part about growing up? Knowing not to look back. Here are a few things I’ve learnt along the way …

Love has to be fitted into your life: we can’t live on self-love alone so whether it’s your family, friends, partner or kids. Find time for all of them.

There is never a ‘right’ time to ‘plan’ for a baby so don’t put it off just because ‘you got that promotion’ or ‘I want to travel’. Let nature take its course and everything, even having a baby, will fit in around it. Promise

Have an opinion. It may polarise people but sure beats sitting on the fence. And don’t think you NEED to agree with everyone as there is nothing better than a measured and well-researched opinion.

Talking of ‘stuff’, try, try, try to get rid of all of that ‘stuff’ that is hemming you in. A cull of your bits at home can be a slow process but it will be well worth it. My cull, by the way, is still an ongoing process.

 Be open to reinventing your work life. It gives you a whole new purpose and makes you remain relevant.

Continue to learn, listen and be inquisitive about new things. I love my younger colleagues: they teach me and I (hopefully) teach them a little thing here and there.

Breathe in and out. By mindful Learn. Listen. Love. 

Live now. Mindfulness is a tool I’m using more and more by not planning too far ahead. Sure, we’re all bombarded with devices, social media platforms, life’s commitments and a constant thud of technology but try to live in this very moment.

Your job doesn’t define you as a person. Sure, being successful in a chosen field gives you confidence, stability and money to live. But once you step out of that role, it’s your real friends and family who will always be there.

Walk around in the person’s shoes before you judge. To Kill A Mockingbird’s Atticus Finch nailed it when he said to his daughter, Scout, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view … Until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.’’

We’ve all been guilty of ‘having a go’ without thinking of the consequences, and as I get older I am so much more aware of those consequences.

Learn to say no. You can’t be everything to everyone.

Hate: what an absolute waste of time and emotion. We all see what jealousy, bitterness and resentment does to people and it ain’t pretty. Be happy for the success of others.

Ask (nicely) for help, support or whatever: how many times do we assume people know what we need but we never vocalise it.

Family. Love ‘em! Even if you don’t see them as much as you would like, who is it I always call when times are tough? My unwavering mum.

A husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, mum, dad, or whoever — is not your financial plan. Create your own destiny: being hungry makes you try that bit harder.

Use the past (complete with its mistakes and misadventures) to change the stuff you do in your future. I always try to look on what I’ve done — good and bad — as a way to do things better next time.

There is no need to conform to what is ‘in fashion’: wear what you feel good in even if the colour, the length or the cut isn’t quite ‘now’. Honestly, in the long run, no-one really cares.

Surround yourself with people you really like … OK, it’s a cliche, but life really is too short to have people in your life who mock you, try to bring you down, bitch or bully you.

Oh, and try, try, try to clear your bills each month … for risk of personal debt accumulating and accumulating. I’ve been there; we’ve all been there. Don’t let money — or the lack of it — be the root of any happiness. Try to take lessons in being frugal.

Try to save a deposit for a little piece of real estate. When you finally reach retirement age you’ll have a small slice of security. And try to chuck a few bucks away in superannuation: even 10 bucks a week will do.

Remember to breathe. Deep and hard. Smell the roses. And relax. Melissa Hoyer